Today I woke up with a mission ~ Its was an opportunity to hand over the keys which made me the owner of my own life.
Yesterday, While I was in session with a X student, It was about helping his understand his strengths, his motivators and de motivators. Post behavior and career analysis, We were going great and he was really excited about his analysis report. He said it was bang on ~ which for him meant he answered all the questions with integrity and no pretensions.
For me it was yet another feather in my cap as when a child compliments what a 20-22 page analysis says is a great accomplishment. As I have seen adults shrinking and in denial when they go thru the report.
Let me get back to the session, where everything was in line and suddenly I saw this young tough boy breaking down inside as he spoke his mind. He is a great writer with fabs understanding of emotions and practical world. I say that as I have myself read a few of his blogs.
He was trying to hold on to his world yet it was all falling apart. He has a few issues with his parents, To that I would say ~ WHO DOESN’T. I had issues when I was a child so did my dad. Its all about how we want to deal with them.
He felt betrayed and bullied by the discord among parents and his own need to make peace so that he could concentrate on his studies as BOARDS are right on head.
While the conversation proceeded, We both where desperately trying to sort the issue of WHAT IS ACTUALLY BOTHERING HIM, AS THE SITUATION AT HOME HAD BEEN LIKE THIS SINCE AGES. He was baffled and wanted instant solutions. We both we deep into questions and probing for answers and realised that it was going no where.
So, I took a deep breathe as told myself, RAKHI SOFTA SHARMA ~ hold ur horses, I know you want to help him however solutions have their own way to coming to you.
So, I told him, lets do this differently. I said lets meet every week for an hour for coaching session and lets for today start from solution and the problem will surface in its own course of time.
I ~ , what is that you want at this point of time the most.
He ~ HIS BALANCE.
I ~ what is he doing to create that.
He ~ Nothing, am trying to know what causing this unsettled state of mind.
I ~ Will the knowledge sort anything, What if I tell you whats causing it, Will it sort out.
He ~ NOPE ~ (I could see he was more comfortable now, as things had started to make sense to him)
I ~ So, lets work on solution n not the cause.
He ~ looked blank
I ~ What do you feel you need to get your peace back.
He ~ I need to worry less and need to stop getting into the web.
I ~ when you know the solution, why aren’t you doing.
I told him a story of a dad and a son, who went to the river side where dad asked the son, there are five frogs, four decided to jump. How many left. The son very happily said ONE. Dad said wrong. FIVE. As four decided however decision making is no execution. We need to back decision with action.
He ~ Great, Yeah, I knew the answers however never acted upon them and inaction was troubling me.
I ~ Take ownership of your life for good, bad, ugly…….. and look what you can do to achieve what you want.
Parents, Circumstances, People, Friends, Money and Time are all excuses and blames which will only lead to ESCAPISM and ESCAPISM will never lead to a FUTURE WHICH HAS YOUR COMPLETE OWNERSHIP.
So the key is yours, use it as it had helped me in BEING OWNER OF MY LIFE COMPLETELY without loosing on values, time and emotions ~ BE IN THE AREA OF ACTION ~ AND SHUN AREA OF CONCERN AS CONCERN IS A WEB AND ACTION IS ALWAYS RESULT ORIENTED AND WILL EMPOWER US.
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