TABULA RASA ~ A CLEAN SLATE
TABULA RASA ~ A CLEAN SLATE
This is something I understood a little late in life. That happiness that I am seeking and I want for myself and my loved ones is not responsibility of others. We need to create that happiness by creating tabula rasa ~ a clear slate every time we hold on to something that gives us sadness.
Do we ever realise that our own actions n reactions are responsible for what we feel and create in life and not actually what others do. When we choose to hold on to an act of someone as a reason of our sadness or failure, we create sadness. It is our own struggle of proving to ourselves what assumptions n expectation we have made about things, people, self that are the biggest barrier of our Happiness. Yet we hold others responsible for all that goes wrong in our lives, at work, in relations, among friends n with our kids n parents.
Let me simplify it by putting it in a different way. For example A girl has this image that she is not treated as equal by her parent. She creates a BLUEBRINT OF THAT IMAGE ~ AND THEN SHE KEEPS ON ADDING ON GRADES TO HERSELF WITH EVERY INCIDENT THAT HAPPENS. And that incident is like confirmation that she does not deserve her parents love. And then instead of cleaning that slate, she keeps it under her pillow to look at it and affirm what BLUEBRINT represents.
Similarly Student, who thinks he is BAD AT MATHEMATICS, keeps his report card updated. And in order to keep their report cards updated both of them knowingly and unknowing make half hearted sincere efforts as in the back of the mind they believe they are failures. So what we need to do is we need to everyday, clean the slate like u cleans our room, our utensils, and our drawing room regularly. Just imagine what will happen if we let it be the way it is for a week, what if we keep wear same clothes without washing them. Why is it so easy to hang on to sadness when a simple act can create a new day?
The answer is simple, by blaming others, by hanging onto the sadness we kind of get license to justify our assumptions n believes and most importantly keeps us in our comfort zone. It is a way to keep away from challenging believes and assumptions and a way to seek answers from others and not look within.
We believe that change is the only constant thing in life yet most of us do not change with intention to grow as a better person or to create a better future. The change that circumstances and events bring in us is all that we are ready to acknowledge and boast as they are what part our pretending to be an intellectual being and supporter of change.
HENCE WE NEED TO TAKE OWNERSHIP OF WHAT WE CAN DO TO CREATE THAT HAPPINESS IN RELATIONS, IN LIFE, WITH SELF. IT IS OUR HOME AND OUR JOURNEY, IT IS OUR RESPONSIBILITY TO CLEAN THAT BLUEPRINT TIME ON REGULAR BASES SO THAT IT GIVE WAY TO FRAGRANCE OF HAPPINESS AND A BETTER LIFE.